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Q: Chinese girls and 1-night stands

My 31-yr-old Chinese girlfriend has told me that she has slept with only 4 men in her life: her ex-husband, me, and 2 strangers.  She had 2 one-night stands since her first marriage/divorce a few years ago.  Both times were hook-ups in an upscale Shanghai bar/club, the last being M1nt a week after we met the first time. A chat up in the club, cab ride to his hotel, a shag, cab ride back - alone - to the club to rejoin her girlfriends.  It took all of one hour.

 

(As an aside, you might say I was a 1-night stand, although it was 4 straight nights, but that’s another story.)

 

Both her ONS were with white guys. I’m white.  Does she have white fever?

 

We met on a dating site. We’ve been together for a year in a long-distance relationship.  She says she is faithful to me now that we are committed and I believe her.  But I’m concerned about the 2 ONS in her past.  Hardly a recurrent, serial pattern, nor necessarily a sign of promiscuity, but...

 

Should I be concerned?  What are the odds she will be drawn into / tempted to have a another ONS?  Is it normative behavior among single Chinese women over the age of 30 to have casual sex with strangers, especially Caucasians?

11 years 30 weeks ago in  General  - China

 
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Dear, First I came China as a student and I am doing job here since. My total stay is now more than 5 years here in China in which I stayed in 3-4 cities.

What I will say on your concern that It is not so common but it is common in China. Just give  a minute and think why most of the Chinese girls goes to Night Club..especially the girls who are single. The answer is obvious.to find a sleeping partner..but my experience says that if they find a good partner in Night Club then carry with them for long time (I have personal experience -  When I went first time in Night club with my other 3 friends in 2007..Two of them find Sleeping partner and now they are still Boy Friend-Girl Friend and living together. The 3rd Guy also find a local girl on that day but he never slept with her again after that day.). So the conclusion is that those two girls use to come night club on regular basis but they become committed after that night stand. and it was not tin the case of 3rd Girl.

 

This the same case with married woman who comes to Night Club..I can share because it will again take my half an hour..

 

I think If will write here my experience of last 5 years..I will write a book.

 

So the summary is that my friend "If you find any girl in Night Club..then just give her some opportunity to prove herself whether she is committed or not also you are mature man and you can Judge through your senses that this is going to be long term or not."

Just Wait and Watch..you are not gonna loose anything..But you can gain..

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In seven years i had more one night stands than a calculator can calculate and most of them were with chinese girls....sometimes with some chinese girls it's not even called a one night stand.it's all day stand from the dawn to dusk and turns we continue........so i guess my experience explain the answer of this question

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If a ONS trip and all took one hour, thats laughable. Why would you ask? Do you expect a truthful answer, this is China. Who cares? Guys use women more than the reverse (naive?) So for a woman to have a ONS it may not be her doing. If you could have a ONS every night with a beautiful woman, would you? I would, so don't judge on that. if she wants iPad then run.

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Don't worry about this kind of thing until you see an obvous sign you should. It'll consume and ruin your life.

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If it were a Chinese guy on the side I'd be more weary.

 

The western guy is probably doing the same thing, just picking up women.

 

The Chinese guy would be more likely creeping, always there.

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The only thing you talk about your girlfriend is her sex experience. Perhaps to you she's nothing but a sexual object. And to be more sarcastic, you ask, do Chinese women over 30 blah blah blah...Do you have any idea how many Chinese women over 30 are there in the world?

 

The answer is, we don't know her any better than you do. She's your girlfriend. If you are so insecure and you must discuss her sexual experience here with a bunch of strangers who are mostly none chinese on this website instead of just talk to her or trusting her, then perhaps just be single. 

Hotwater:

Why drag up a 5-year old post? Are you an ECC stooge here to get more page views?

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Nah, just found it by accident and put insight into old Qs

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have you ever slept with someone without really being in love?

oh you last 2-4 sex partners were the same race and have the same hair color as you do, it means that you're obsessed with that type!

 

If you aren't a virgin stop complaining. If you like the girl shut up and enjoy your life. If not, break up and find a virgin.

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is 4 a lot for you lol? bro get over it I'm sure you've done the same, and if you haven't you gotta get out more

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