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anonymous
Q: how much did you pay your inlaws to marry here?
for all lao we that married Chinese ladies. I wanna ask how much your wife parents charged before giving their daughter out to you.
10 years 13 weeks ago in Relationships - China
Not a cent , they even gave money to take her off their hands 
, in hind site that should have been a warning sign 
Here's a list of the dowry I bestowed upon the inlaws:
mother-in-law: double-titty-kicking that sent her flying into the wall 10 feet away, concussion
father-in-law: broken jaw, broken nose, concussion
brother-in-law: broken jaw, broken glasses, broken nose, concussion
all of them: complete loss of face.
If you don't have money, it's blood in, blood out. They ended up paying me..
EZ4ME2B:
You cannot be serious? If you are not joking you must be divorced by now. Tell the truth - all that violence would have alienated you from the family immediately and got your ass deported.
Hulk:
Nope. Not kidding. My wife came with me, too. This was over a year ago.
Not every Chinese girl blindly follows her parents.
They shouldn't have tried to force her to have an abortion. The entire neighborhood took our side as well. They witnessed it, and when the police came, the police ended up reluctantly taking our side. God was on our side.
Robk:
You beat up her family because they wanted to abort your kid.... !!!!
Good for you! And I mean it!
Hulk:
Had her brother in a neck-breaker position. Twice. Almost killed him. Twice. Self-control prevailed, somehow.
I never paid a dime until I married her. Now she is costing me a fortune and her family thinks I am their personal bank.
Robk:
I actually gave them like 30k RMB before marriage and like 5-8k RMB per year during Spring Festival. Well my wife wants to give it to them, her father refuses but I know he needs it and he is a good guy... he works hard just doesn't make enough to meet the demands of modern China.
I lent them 90K RMB recently to help them get their son (my brother in law) married. They couldn't afford it and it was messy. Anyway, I don't mind helping them... but my brother in law is kind of lazy and should work harder to contribute.
They do everything for him. They bought him a car, put the down payment on his apartment AND paid for his wedding (rings, furniture etc.). He is still kind of young and will seems to be growing out of the lazy (I just want to play internet games) phase.
But it's okay. I do well enough so I can help.
My friend is in deep pressure to buy a house for her in Dongguan. They married indeed.
They asked for nothing, nada, zilch. For the wedding ceremony, they wanted to pay for all of it, but eventually, we convinced them to let us pay half of it.
Didn't ask, so I got my father inlaw an eye surgery to help him see again, the stupid doctors in Hainan told him his vision couldn't be fixed 40 years ago, but it was easy to fix...So that's my style, I help the family with things that they need. Cash is not ideal too me as a gift.
It started with 2000 euro, just a portion of what they demanded. Eventually I ended up borrowing everything I could for a house mortgage here in China, because of the actual wedding and childbirth. Most of the mortgage was borrowed from their own family, friends and local bank, though. I don't feel comfy investing everything in real estate, with USA market antics now involved in China. But I didn't have much say in it. The most frustrating part is listening to the idiocy: Now that everything's invested in a house in China, I still get the expectant question "when will we move to England?" It's like talking to magical wishful thinking children.
Robk:
I kind of have that going on too.
Wife wants an apartment in the city near her hometown... but also wants a family... so we should have a place in Canada... but I want a villa in the Philippines because I know land prices are skyrocketing there cause of retirees etc.
It's like damn... I will be dead from stress before we have anything just trying to make the money to pay for it lol. Maybe that's her EVIL plan!
usually couple thousand like 10 thousand..each province has different rules soooooo God Bless you
Robk:
That's pretty low.
Actually, it is increasing drastically. What I first heard it was like 20-30k RMB, then 50k RMB and then 60-80k RMB... my brother in law paid 100k RMB.
I paid nothing. MIL said she would not sell her daughter.
We broke even with the wedding after we counted the huang bao. Even after we done the " give half back" thing. I rather like that idea of giving half back. But only to the people who give a lot 
. I think anyone who gave more than 400 got half back.
Poor dudes those who end up brain washed in to that stone-age costume. When in Rome... but there are limits, limits agains crimes against humanity.
