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Q: Pet peeve problem.....
OK,, we agreed we could talk about junk that is not directly a Chiner question,,,, so, I'll do just that. My 'question' is what is your Pet peeve??
Mine is all my friends on chat saying 'Really',,, not sure if it's followed by a ! or a ?, or both,, but it bugs me! Yes, really! why the h e double hockey-sticks do you think I just told u about it?
yeah, I know I relate outlandish tales from dwelling in the bowels of the MK,,,, but still,,, don't say 'really'.... I mean how can I reply? 'Yes, really!',,, 'No, I'm just into fiction'... ok, so my conversants are female,,, so, maybe girls talk that way instead of the more analytical approach,,, but it just makes me feel like yelling...,.. 'yes really, why the hell do u think I said it?'
haha,,, yeah,,, I'm an uptight penis.... haha,,
so,,,, what da fk is your 'Pet peeve'?
My pet peeve in China is all the smoking everywhere. Smoking in the elevator, smoking in the subway entrance, smoking on the sidewalk so I have to walk on the street to avoid them. I can't wait till everyone gets lung cancer in 20 years. China needs to thin the herd.
RobRocks:
I went to a small shop last week to get some coffee,a young guy in the shop(he was a customer)smoking in the shop.big no smoking sign on the wall,the shop keeper asked him not to smoke,the guy kept on smoking didnt give a shit.
diverdude1:
I just stayed in pretty nice hotel. 230¥ a nite. Clean, but towels and bedding had smoke smell embedded. Odd, once it gets in good,, there is no getting it out.
I'm kinda mean sometimes to smokers, because my Pet peeve is the hacking (grossest behaivour I've ever witnessed on a common scale) so, I will tell the hacker to have another cigarette,,,,, haha,, can u imagine the # of patients in china hospitals with some type of pulmonary/cardiac disease ? Numbers must be stunning!
Stiggs:
There was a guy in a community I lived in who would go out every evening when other people were playing badminton, doing tai chi etc and clear his system.
He'd sit there for maybe 30 - 40 minutes making various throat / chest clearing noises, sounded like he was drowning in his own mucus and was desperately trying to bring it up and spit it out. He never did seem to get that elusive tennis ball sized lump that was wedged somewhere inside.
I bet he spent his life chain smoking shitty high tar cigarettes. One day I realised I hadn't seen him for a while, think he must have finally drowned in his own mucus.
ScotsAlan:
Ha ha Stiggs. Your story conjoured an image in my head. Years of trying to hack his lungs up.. finally success.. looks aghast at the floor to see his lungs there.
I ain't into smart-phones (and we-cwat) 'cause am smart enough!
Statement or Q "Ohh, really?" most likely ask you to expand on your last Bulb-Fiction ....
You can make any Q here China related ... just add '... in China or elsewhere?' to your Q above. 
I'm just teasing 
the mod-man and his button ... 
diverdude1:
haha,,, yeah,, just in China,, the female type asks/states 'really?' in a request to get one to add more China information in China, because it is very much about China. I will play along now and assure them that Really, it is a real thing.
Unless of course - 'merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream.......'
icnif77:
You could ask:
"Can you spell it, please? The last word, only ... " 
OT: I have 4 comment windows open, one below another. I've never seen such thing. 'Submit' button is below the last one. It might be 'cause of pnv I am using. Let see what will happen ...
ambivalentmace:
looking up history on a smart phone in a history class.
Not sure you'd call it a peeve but the dumbing down of English irritates me when I see it.
examples.....
Writing or saying dis or dat instead of this or that, I b instead of I'm, nek instead of next,
da instead of the.
While I'm here sounding like a grumpy, uncool old man I'll throw in guys who wear their pants halfway down around their arse so they walk like they just shit themselves.
diverdude1:
I hate falling down pants, and another one that bugs me is the grey sweatpants in public and worn to school. Looks like they are in their pajamas to me. Keep them in the gym guys, in the gym.
ambivalentmace:
using "coz" in an Ielts English textbook or website instead of "because" and then they screw up the writing essay and say that's how the book spelled it.
icnif77:
That's hood fashion ... when they rap, pants slide down and remain there ...
I used to tease them:
"Why do they talk while they sing?"
Low IQ reply always followed: "WHAT?"
and me repeating my Q ...
Well, if it's unrelated to China... I hate people quoting rules they only apply selectively, when it suits them. Not sure what to call this pet peeve. Living in Germany, I bear the brunt of these delightful:
Rule makers
Rule takers
Rule breakers
Rule fakers
First example:
I'm in a restaurant with my kids and a friends' kids. The friends kids are gone for a half hour, my kids want to play with them. My wife's friend says her kids are in the far corner of the restaurant, playing. I walk to that corner, I see dark rooms, some stairs that customers are not allowed up, and a private party in a rented room. My kids follow me back and forth, searching. Then my kids are gone, I don't know where they went.
I tell my wife I can't find them. After a while, I start to worry, so I look for them again, spend 15-20mins searching the entire restaurant back and forth, nothing. I start to worry they might be lost, stuck, kidnapped or in some other sort of trouble.
As an act of desperation, I look outside, up the stairs, in the dark rooms with my phone flashlight, and peek around the corner in the private room. They are playing in a corner in the private room, with kids from the private party. Whew! So, the private party let them come in, and they've been playing here for half an hour. I guess I misunderstood, and the private party is relaxed about uninvited people entering. OK then, I'll go walk towards my kids.
"Entschuldigung" - a high pitched, accusational tone directed towards a rude interloper. That would be me.
My subconscious was screaming to me, things my conscious had not yet pieced together: "Are you effin' kidding me? NOW they care about uninvited people entering? If they had done so from the start, I wouldn't have been worried sick about my kids for half an hour! Blasted hypocrites, how dare they talk to me as if I'm bothering them, it's the other way around." If I had disregarded the privacy of the rented room, I would've found my kids long before, saving myself energy and emotions, worrying where my kids are. Now these people say I don't respect their private party - the fact that I did so, and they did not apply the rules, was the cause of my worries.
I was approached three times by simpleminded German cunts before I could even leave the room. I explained I was only there for my kids, but the cunts were too engaged in their own brave confrontationalism to actually listen to me. I was hastily ejected without my kids, meaning I had to return again. Fuck me, dammit.
As much as the party was super fun, full of cultured, sophisticated, intreresting, happy people who like to blame parents for looking for the children they let into their party (to clarify: I'm being sarcastic). Strangely, I was not looking forward to going back there. It was the darndest thing.
As I was approaching, a woman was 'standing guard', protecting the precious party from being interrupted by uninvited guests. Speaking of uninvited guests, I was coming to collect my uninvited kids. Now one of those nazi-descendants was blocking my access to my kids!
When she tried to give me a stern lecture, I snapped. I switched to English. Prophanity English to be specific. Although there were some good retorts to be made about their attitude, I hadn't formed them at the time. When in doubt, swear generously.
"I know it's a fucking private party, why are my kids here? So you rented the room, now you get to be rude. Whooptie-fucking-doo."
/end rant
So, my pet peeve is dishonest self-righteousness. Quoting rules as justification to start confrontations with people. I get it a lot in Germany, they have no patience for kids, and treat parents as criminals.
My kids' kindergarten is doing the same thing with me. Putting me through 'punctuality tests' and finding me lacking. They recently changed the rules, that parents must bring their kids to school 10 mins before the deadline. It just happens that I'm the one who most often brings the kids to school just-on-time, except just-on-time is too late, now. I'm sure it's just a coincidence, that I'm confronted about my punctuality when no other parents are bringing their kids in just-on-time. When they are, no lectures, no problems. I always get the nutters. Is it something in my face that makes these creeps think I'm an easy target?
One time, I got a hasty phone call from staff, because Andy had fallen sick. When I tried to answer that I was very busy but I would come as soon as possible, the staff reported it as "being rude on the phone." Because I must come immediately when they feel it's an emergency. So, I disregarded a rule, if you interpret the interaction dishonestly. Andy had thrown up, but he was fine when I arrived to pick him up. Naturally, bruised egos had to exaggerate every incident for months after that.
"Gesetzloser" - you break the rules, you are an outlaw, expect no mercy. Germans use this simplistic dichotomy as a shield and justification to be as hostile as they want.
When my child returned home with a face full of scratches, it took a dramatic encounter with the head teacher and the manager, bringing my wife to the brink of tears, for them to even acknowledge something was wrong. Soon after, they reluctantly disciplined the kid who was scratching Andy's face. I mean, bleeding wounds from a fight are a pretty big deal, right? There should be rules protecting kids from such injury. If they do get injured, staff should be vigilant, not trying to talk down the incident. Why do parents need to push staff to uphold rules? I just get the distinct feeling that the German staff doesn't like me, and are selectively applying rules to bother the people they don't like. Dishonest self-righteousness.
And the kids learn and copy: I've been followed around by young kids shouting "das darf nicht!!!" for daring to step into an exercise room for a moment while looking for my kids. When I react with the kindest reply I can possibly think of, a silent finger-to-lips gesture to the kid to be quiet, the looks of disapproval from parent and staff are astounding. Rules are rules, and there's no consideration of whether they should be applied consistently or not. I wasn't sneaking into the exercise room to play, I'm not a peer, and I had a valid reason. None of it matters to Germans.
It's just really difficult to raise kids in Germany. If you're white, anyway. If I were a big, muscular black guy or an angry-faced Turk, I'm sure Germans would tone down their cuntiness, to avoid accusations of discrimination. But I'm white AND a foreigner, so fuck me and my kids halfway to hell! Enjoy Germany's cultural suicide! "Hey wait. I'm not German. I'm not bringing my kids to kindergarten because I want them to have a reactionary, intolerant, self-defeating culture. I'm obligated to bring them to kindergarten, that's all. Who is paying me to be punctual? This is nonsense."
Angela Merkel has no children. The leader before her, Schroder, also had no children. It seems not having children is good for your career! Honestly, the more I experience Germany, the more I realize they brought about their own problems, and richly deserve them.
1. Extremely low birth rates, despite a healthy economy. I wonder why.
2. Second highest healthcare cost in the world, after USA's broken system.
3. Highest proportion of pensioners in Europe, Monaco notwithstanding.
4. Largest immigrant population in Europe.
It seems Germany's stopgap solution to its labour shortage, is not to take ownership of problems in the culture that lead to low birth rates, it's to invite Syrian refugees to have the children for them. It's cultural suicide, letting your own people get displaced by immigrant population, because it's just not worth it for anyone who is (or looks like a) German, to have children. They harass each other with expectations of orderliness and punctuality, that families with young kids can't meet. It's really disingenuous.
So.... er, what should I call this pet peeve? Hypocrisy, stupidity, stubbornness, intolerance? Not sure.
Stiggs:
I've never had much to do with Germans myself, never lived in Europe but I did have a German abuse me once because I wouldn't change some rules to suit her.
Tried explaining that the rule applied to everyone and it would be very difficult for all involved to cater to her demands but the arrogant cow thought that it was rascist of me not to give her special treatment. Not sure how that made me the rascist and not her but then how could a lowlife peasant like me ever understand that she was entitled to whatever she wanted... because.
I didn't have any rascist feelings towards her before that but I have to admit I really wanted to tell her how my grandfather probably put a few of her kind where they belong back in ww2 just to watch her face go purple.
coineineagh:
Never said it before, but my stepfather's uncle was a Scottish-Indian spitfire pilot in WWII, shot down over Arnhem and buried there, to the best of my knowledge. He was named Ivan, so was my stepfather. It's my second name.
My pet peeve is Trump, American politics, and American press.
The blatent lies and the stupidity.
my pet peeve(sorry China related)
smoking in lifts
smoking in the gym
and one of the main pet peeves is seeing parents on there ebike,they are wearing a helmet but there kids are not wearing one.or both parents and children have helmets on but they are not done up.or the parent has a helmet on but the child does not want to wear it so its in the fromt basket.
Stiggs:
Yeah the smoking is a common one.
I've never been a violent person but if I ever do kill someone it will probably be a wanker who gets into a lift I'm in and lights up in it.
My pet peeve in China is all the smoking everywhere. Smoking in the elevator, smoking in the subway entrance, smoking on the sidewalk so I have to walk on the street to avoid them. I can't wait till everyone gets lung cancer in 20 years. China needs to thin the herd.
RobRocks:
I went to a small shop last week to get some coffee,a young guy in the shop(he was a customer)smoking in the shop.big no smoking sign on the wall,the shop keeper asked him not to smoke,the guy kept on smoking didnt give a shit.
diverdude1:
I just stayed in pretty nice hotel. 230¥ a nite. Clean, but towels and bedding had smoke smell embedded. Odd, once it gets in good,, there is no getting it out.
I'm kinda mean sometimes to smokers, because my Pet peeve is the hacking (grossest behaivour I've ever witnessed on a common scale) so, I will tell the hacker to have another cigarette,,,,, haha,, can u imagine the # of patients in china hospitals with some type of pulmonary/cardiac disease ? Numbers must be stunning!
Stiggs:
There was a guy in a community I lived in who would go out every evening when other people were playing badminton, doing tai chi etc and clear his system.
He'd sit there for maybe 30 - 40 minutes making various throat / chest clearing noises, sounded like he was drowning in his own mucus and was desperately trying to bring it up and spit it out. He never did seem to get that elusive tennis ball sized lump that was wedged somewhere inside.
I bet he spent his life chain smoking shitty high tar cigarettes. One day I realised I hadn't seen him for a while, think he must have finally drowned in his own mucus.
ScotsAlan:
Ha ha Stiggs. Your story conjoured an image in my head. Years of trying to hack his lungs up.. finally success.. looks aghast at the floor to see his lungs there.
Cup washing. Standing behind someone in the tea area at work, and someone (most often a woman), has the cold tap on full and seems to spend an eternity rinsing their mug. Not a spot of detergent. Just slosh, rub with hand, slosh, slosh slosh, rub rub rub.. slosh slosh slosh.. rub, slosh, rub, slosh.
ScotsAlan:
Oh, same sink today. A dude , gulp of water, gargle, spit, then spends a minute hacking his lungs and emptying his nose into sink. Does not run tap to rinse away.
diverdude1:
yeah, conservation has made few inroads here yet. waste every resource like it is going out of style! (or is it 'waist'... I feel I'm losing my English). I speak Chinglish,, haha,,, hope u guys aren't mad at me.. well, 17 yrs in Asia and raely around wei guo ren....
ambivalentmace:
I wonder how much coal from heating radiator pipes would be saved if these idiots actually use air filters inside and closed the damn frigging windows. I wonder how much pollution was needlessly made for the same reason.
Minus 10 last week and half the windows in the school building are wide open with the heat running to the radiators. Look up at the windows open in any city in China on the next snow day or sub zero day.
ScotsAlan:
Totally agree ambi. Double glazing at least. Keep the cold in during the summer, and the heat in during winter.
People standing beside bins, peeling fruit, and letting the peelings fall to the floor beside the bin. This peeve also applies to nut eaters in bars who seem intent on making as much mess as possible.
diverdude1:
haha,, I don't go much to restaurants anymore,,, but used to be everything was thrown on floor around dining table,,, hehe,, a real sight to see. They enjoy meal and at table was all discard. Tissue,, bones,, nut shells, cig butts,, really just anything,, the floor was where rubbish discard,,,, used to be normal,,, not sure how much now one see's that,, but used to be normal.,,,
icnif77:
There is a pub in Delaware, where every table has big bowl of complimentary peanuts in shell. By the way, peanuts in that area (Georgia, Carolinas, Maryland) are huge.
Wooden floors of the pub are covered with peanut shells ... and me at the entrance with Q:
''Did your maid just quit ... ?"
It's restaurant custom to drop shells on the floor and leave it there. It looks like they didn't swipe the floors in ages.
diverdude1:
haha,, I spent time in the Carolinas,,, years and years ago... I kinda remember the peanut thing,,, they was crazy about peanuts. Not much time for bars/pubs though,,,,, I was working,,,, haha,, back when I had a real job. But yeah,, throwing shit on floor happens a few places I guess,,, there used to be places they put sawdust on floor. Not exactly sure what that was meant to do,, but sawdust can smell ggod ~
icnif77:
It's meant "No cleaning and swiping the floor ever!"
You also don't need to repaint or replace old wooden floors.
Kind of funny feeling, because when you walk in, floors crack ... crack, crack.
It's peanut shells themed pub.
Stiggs:
People walking past the conveniently placed bin to throw their rubbish onto the street.
another pet peeve are people on ebikes cutting corners,I never ride on the wrong side of the road or cut corners.but other people do,its not safe,but people here dont even care about there own life.
diverdude1:
yeah,,, if u live in medium or big city just go stand and watch road traffic some night. wow,,, I seen a lot of merde in my time,, but wow. I still love how they ride an e-bike down the wrong side of the street heading into oncoming traffic,, and they have no running lights,, no helmet. Sometimes I was wondering if they kinda have secret death wish or something....
Stiggs:
I don't think it's a deathwish, just people who are oblivious to the risk.
More than once I've been with people who will suddenly decide to cross the road and not check for cars before they step out, or walk on the street instead of the footpath with vehicles driving around them at speed, or cross the road when they have a red light and heavy traffic is flowing rather than wait 30 seconds for the light to change.
If you ask them why they do that, don't you worry about being hit by a bus or something - a speeding driver who is reading a message on his phone or lighting a cigarette won't always see you in time to swerve - you'll get the blank stare. All too often that line of thought...'this could be dangerous because ____ might easily happen' just doesn't happen. A Chinese friend told me once I'm qute pessimistic. Could be something in that too.
Boy; after reading these posts I am not sure which pet peeve I have. regarding smoking; I've seen teachers in middle schools smoking in front of NO SMOKING signs (written in both English and Chinese) in school washrooms. So I can understand why students would think there is nothing wrong with smoking. As for the driving; There is a reason this culture celebrates Qing Ming. I think most people are hoping for a better life in the next life.
diverdude1:
same here, I've seen plenty of cigarette smoking on public school campi. haha,, did I get the plural right? :p
