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Q: What is the most inappropriate question you have been asked?
One time a student of mine asked me if I was wearing a bra. Now, to give you a little background, she's a friend, a strange girl to begin with, and it was only the two of us talking, but I was still shocked by this question. This was only a month or two ago. Has anyone asked you an inappropriate question? A student, coworker or employee? How bad was it?
For me it was being asked at English corner how much I earned. I gave a bland answer like "enough" but was then asked it again and I did say that it was an inappropriate question but that seemed to go right over their head, however they did not ask again.
tmestep8:
haha. I always reply that I get paid in money, but they don't get it.
people especially Chinese always use to ask me ( Why do you have beard ? why do to many foreigners grow beard ? why do you people like beard ? ) when they ask me question like these i jus got one answer for them........... WTF
How large is my equipment. I told him it's so big I pass out when - you know.
Wrong answer! I could not get rid of him.
A chinese guy asked me do you like boys or girls. . . Well that's because they were Gay!
Chinese person: "So, when are you getting married?"
Me: "We're not engaged"
Chinese person: "Yes, but when are you getting married?"
Me: "We're not engaged, that means we are not planning to get married."
Chinese person: "Maybe you can get married here in China. My friend/relative/person who I owe a favour can help you out with the venue."
Me: But we're not engaged, not planning to get married, not planning anything like that"
Chinese person: "But you will get married, right?"
Me: "AAAAARGHHHHHH!"
Jnusb416:
You should have said "Maybe. If I need help I will ask you." It's better to just let it go. It'll save you a headache. 
jyao87:
I effing hate it how they ask you like everyday when you will marry. Like ok you asked me today, tomorrow it will still be the same answer. Like F*** why can't I just not married? Why do they think being married justifies a life and happiness ? It realllly shits me.
bonita8187:
"when are you getting married?" i've been asked by a lot of people except chinese . interesting.
one of my male students invited me out to lunch to bombard me with questions like "how many girls have you slept with?" "do you watch porn?" "american girls are very open?" etc. which is why i avoid men like the plague
A rather pointed question from a female friend over QQ...
Chinese friend: Oh, you have a new girlfriend?
Me: Yes
Chinese friend: Have sex yet?
Me: Distressed/Sweating smiley face
Hakupatasa:
hahahahahahhaa...
I faced the same question. A female student asked me if I had sex with my new GF. It was just after one week of being together with my GF.
I said, yes we did it for the whole night.
Then she stopped asking anything again.
I had a taxi driver ask how long before I had sex with bf! And why we aren't married yet. And how he isn't marrying me because he's just using me. I was so angry. But then he was Chinese and old. So they are just uncivil.
Chinese do ask a lot of questions they have no business asking. I feel it comes from a large curiosity and a propensity to gossip. From kids asking you the typical three questions (your name, from where you come and how old are you), to teenagers asking where do you live, do you have money, are you millionaire, and ending with elders giving you orders and instructions on just about everything.
I was asked once if I was still sexually capable, my reply was what I do with my GF is private between the two of us. Sorry Jnusb, I have been asked to many inappropriate questions, covering many subjects, things that no one would dare ask you abroad.
But I guess the worst one I remember was when one Lady asked me what size shoes I wear, and I replied 13.5 EEE. Her eyes opened, and she said "are you that big everywhere ?" Only problem was we were in a Church service, and many heard her words. I felt pretty bad !.
A boss at a KTV, in the presence of several other workers once asked me ' Is it true u black guys really make women scream the loudest because of sexual excitement?' The workers, all girls and a woman burst into the typical Chinese women giggles.
Although I was a little drunk, I failed to 'not care' - I found the question/remark stupid.
And one teacher at a school I used to visit once asked me about my Chinese girlfriend: Have u had sex with her yet? I asked her if she could ask her fellow Chinese the same question. Can't remember how she answered my question but her face told me she got the point I was driving at. Just silly questions all the time, such that on several occasions  I have ;feigned incompetence in the Chinese language just to save myself from the locals' questions that know no personal space/privacy.
The ask lots of questions: salary, home, marriage, GF/no GF (how many), family, holiday, sex (how many times over night? No pain). Anything they feel like asking. Even those small kids ask about Nationality (Shit! not about country or place), types of music I like, no. of friends, hobbies etc. I don't mind facing the English speaking young Chinese but I would rather not face any Chinese kids who is learning English.
I know they are encroaching my PS. Sometimes I answer something, sometimes I just smile, sometimes i say i will tell later. sometimes i tell them that we don't ask these types of questions not even with closet friends.
Anyway, the good thing is that I have very limited people around me (colleagues) and I guess they already asked what they want to ask.
1, are you wearing a bra?
2, how much money you spend ?
3, when did you lose your viginity?
4, how many times do you have sex a week?
5, how orgasm feels like?
6, how many bf s u had?
7, how big is your bf?...
8, when are you having a babe?
9, how much do you weigh?
10, did u break up with your bf?
11, oh, still the same bf??!
12, how do you know he is serious?! grrrrr
too many..,...
While using the stand up toilet, a Chinese man came to the stall next to me and looked over and down at me ***** and said how had a achieved this size?
Why did I marry a Chinese girl?
How much money do you make?
Why do foreigners think they control China?
Are you virgin?I have been asked to this question for quite a lot of times.
I'm chunky, so how much do you weigh is the most common question I've been asked.
I'm blond, so Is this your natural hair color is another thing they do want to figure out.
But the most embarrassing question was What do you think of Chinese men? I didn't catch their drift first, but then they made themselves clear, You are married to one of them, so what do you think of Chinese men?
I think this is the whole foreigners are not people but cute animals. After 5 years in Asia, and a Degree in Russian, I think I can say that East Asian culture has one of the most profound in/out group sense of self in the world. Perhaps the strongest among literate people.
ElenaDob:
Degree in Russian? I'm happy to meet someone who is learning my language.
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Why do I grow hair around my nipples? It was like a kid asking why I grow hair underneath my armpits around my ass or on my legs.
The question wasn't asked here but it was asked. Very inappropriate especially coming from a mid 20's guy!
TedDBayer:
Yeah, considering you are an old Chinese woman, why were you showing your ass?
A middle school kid asked me to share details on my relationship with my girlfriend.
Hahahaha kids are so precious!
when asked 'are you married' I vary the answer between:
My husband is dead
I am divorced
my husband is in hospital
i am getting married when i am back home
i have 2 husbands, one is in Beijing, but i'm not sure where the other one is
When did you first have sex?
How often do you have sex with your girlfriend?
How much money do you have in America?
How many girlfriends have you had?
