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Q: Who is using who?
I think that true love in China is about as common as a $2 bill.
Do western men use Chinese girls for sex, companionship, boredom cureness or a confidence booster?
Or do Chinese girls use western men for money, a possible way out of China, to show off to friends (face), seeking ..ahem...fullfillment or just a fascination of western culture?
12 years 27 weeks ago in Relationships - China
Yes.
Xpat.John:
My first down votes. I feel so... *sniff sniff* ... proud. :)
How can you say Chinese girl use western men for money?Not all Chinese girl like to show off money.Moreover,money is not a good thing to be shown off.
Another question is "Do you mean all western men are rich?"
You know,money is just a paper and true love is understanding and forgiveness.
crimochina:
he asked the question he did not make a statement. and in his question there wrere options not just use men for money.
Sinodog:
Ah dear Josephine, you are a lone voice of humanity and virtue in an otherwise dark and life-negating firmament of callous gold-diggers, heartbreakers and slappers. Long may you prosper and have your finer feelings requited. :) X
That depends, but I totally understand ur question.
And to be honest, I agree.
We all use each other for something.
I don't juge, when the girl said she would rather cry in the BMW than laugh on a bike... That what she wants, and hopefully she will be happy.
I will say I want true love, hope I can get it, but that doesn't make me a better people. Just different needs... I don't use the money to fullfile me, but the love. A big vila cannot give me the feeling of belonging, warm, love can, for the one who thinks money is more important I guess just love cannot make them feel satisfied.
Everyone gets what they want.
Everyone is happy.
There is no reason the feel insult or upset.
At least u know what u want.
The one who suffered the most are those who don‘t know what they want.
sadly i think the world is becoming a parasitic society , and i am one of them at times. but i always try to find a relationship that is based on give and take. you need sth that i'm willing to give i need sth that i hope you are willing to give.
but really all relationships are based on mutual need.
here where the problem starts, this is common in the states as well as china, too many damn people want sth for nothing or are too damn dishonest with what they want. people want to manipulate and cheat to get what they want in a relationship instead of simply being straight forward and looking for someone to match up needs with. there are no excuses for this but many reasons. china and america are alike in this way, they are both judgemental societiees (usa religion, china govt and cultural norms)
this forces people to try and hide or alter their true selves. they can not advertise "this is what i'm looking for" and "this is what i'm willing to give" Judgemental assholes will scrutinize , put down , isolate, or even imprison them. thius forces people to beat around the bush and be something less than human. this is why i believe in a completely free society no censorship (except when it comes to kids), no laws governing how consenting adults interact with each other. this is dream i know.
HugAPanda:
You know Crimo.... not everyone is what you spout. You are never going to find a woman with an attitude like that. We've all had our share of bad relationships, but you can't get into a relationship thinking the worst of someone before you even know the person, friendship or otherwise. Otherwise, you WILL end up with one of those money-grubbing gold diggers because she won't care what you think about her. You really need to change your attitude and open up and... omg.. even trust a little to find someone of quality.
kchur:
Considering you spent your first few month on this site, Crimo, making two VPNs and a jacket worth of nothing but "hump her and dump her" "jokes" (including the abortion/breakup thing, which you later claimed was a joke ha ha ha), as well as offering your services as a pimp, I really don't see why you expect so much out of women and Chinese in general, when you expect nothing out of yourself, and only live to pursue your own harmful, disgusting hedonism.
kchur:
Also, didn't you actively brag about not being qualified for a teaching job in any other country? About pulling one over on the Chinese? With all the people (especially women) you proudly brag about taking advantage of, who is the parasite?
kchur:
Oh, and, who are you to talk about "judgmental assholes" (this is the guy who whined to the mods about me using profanities, by the by). Back when you had your little sleazeball posse, you would jump all over any poster you didn't think was sleazy to your standards, I saw you and your boyfriend harass plenty of people off the site for expressing their own opinions, or just for being the wrong race. You still would if you weren't such a coward, if you didn't always have to be a chicken-shit little me-too and hide behind your alpha-male. I've noticed that since your hump buddy left, you've gone from number #2 in the top posters list to almost the very bottom. Guess your too afraid without your sleazeball squad to back you up...
crimochina:
kchur: yes you are a judgmental asshole but as with many judgmental assholes you focus your attention on the life of others while your own life is miserable and your responsibilities are neglected. the stick is too far up your ass to where you dont know the difference between a joke and and something serious. you lack basic understanding, you seem to believe if someone does not have the values you try to portray as your own that they are bad (so what if a man wants to have sex with an adult woman). yes i came to this site chasing a vpn, had to settle for a jacket (pretty nice and fits well) i'm honest about myself not delusional. i have a good idea of my faults and good qualities, i usually admit when i am wrong. i'm not worried about trying to project an image of perfection. but i understand you kchur, childhood abuse is a difficult thing to get over. (i used to be a counselor for 4 years) yes i have a BA but not in education, in USA you cant work as a full teacher w/o a degree in education. so i am not qualified to teach in USA that is a statement of fact not bragging. i do not come here at act as if i am this great teacher from USA worthy of special treatment and i do not tell my school how they should run their schools. i am disgusted when other foreigners pull that act. but someone like might think differently. i have never targeted people if they did not think the same way as me, i only attack idiots like you who make personal attacks because of a simple question. i know you miss my posts since you probably masturbate to them but i got my jacket, i have 30 hours of classes , and this site has lost it's appeal. (not just me, activity has declined on this site) lastly between the 2 of us there is only that goes crying to the cat you, i only showed the cat what you wrote to respond to a complaint made against me which is probably why my ban was reduced to 1 day instead of 3
Ok, well, we're always talking about Chinese girls with foreign guys, and how they use eachother and what not. What about the other way, the Chinese guys with foreign girls? That kind of relationship probably has a whole different dynamic. Not only is it less common, but I guess there's not really any gold digging. Yeah, maybe a Chinese guy wants to score with a foreign chick, but I'm not the type of girl who would date a guy like that. A Chinese guy doesn't date a foreign girl to get a visa. Fascination is probably part of it, but often it's about love too. Well at least I don't have to worry about gold diggers.
Shining_brow:
Really?? TBH, I'm not really too sure about that. At the very least, there would be some 'face' value added... isn't that using and gold-digging? I think love can be found both ways (in a non-sexual way, pervs!), and being used can go both ways. But I hope we all get what we're looking for (although, isn't that a curse somewhere?)
