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Q: 'What can I do for you?'

Any body else get this from their Chinese gf, partner, wife?

 

Your sick - what can I do for you?

 

Cup of tea, three sugars - no.

 

What can I do for you?

 

DON'T ASK ME WHAT YOU CAN DO FOR ME!

 

I can't quite put my finger on it but it annoys the hell out of me. I'm thinking it's selfish i.e. ok, confirmation, nothing I can do, so I'll do my stuff and not have to share a further thought for you. Further, in the West say, you would ask can I do this or that, how about this or that, consideration is shown and you show how far you would go to make you feel comfortable, ending in 'anything just ask ok'. 

 

 

 

 

 

10 years 41 weeks ago in  Relationships - China

 
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If they ask me what they can do for me, my ready answer is just give me your American Express platinum card and let's go shopping together for one short hour.

 

What's a girl to do?

moparfan:

How very Chinese of you.

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Hu, chill out and be happy that somebody care for you ?

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pizza, bj and coffee thanks

dunno but my gf never asks me this. But she always asks me what i wanna eat
and i always answer that doesnt exist in china. i m sitting in a loophole

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since you didn't put your name to this ,im guessing your girl reads this forum surprise

ChengduPat:

Or else a case of better safe than sorry!

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Think you're reading too much into it and like what was said its nice to be cared for to some degree at least.

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Don't be silly,you don't put sugar in Chinese tea.

Nessquick:

I do, sometimes

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be grateful they care about you. My wife goes out of her way to help me feel better. yes sometimes i feel just leave me alone. then i have to remember the cultural difference and i let her care for me.

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