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Sign up with Google Sign up with FacebookQ: Foreign girls, is the dating scene frustrating for you here?
especially with the hordes of Chinese girls rushing after every single foreign guys like starving predators and the Chinese guys who are too insecure to start a conversation with you.
11 years 8 weeks ago in Relationships - China
Yes, as a foreign girl I was only able to date 99Silva for a short time. Too bad he was the only one willing to date me... he was a nice guy -- kinda harmless, actually -- but he drooled all over the place and kept judo-chopping himself in the manboobs... ranting about how Mao is awesome, etc... now if only I could find a foreign husband to stay in China with.
matrixjoseph:
the foreign guys just think otherwise: how i wish I could find a foreign girl so I could leave china with her.
unfortunatly many chinese people base their knowledge of foreigners on what they see from foreign TV. So you can guess what chinese men think of foreign women!
angelina8:
Usually, Chinese men tell me I'm the most beautiful woman they have ever seen
Non-Chinese have also asked me out. The dating scene is fine.
ironman510:
No, NOT true Sorrel, my wife is Chinese and she has told me the real reason why.
1. The Chinese husbands family has complete control and of their grandchildren.
2. Chinese girls that marry a Chinese man 70% of the time become business marriage partners, only married because their family told them to or because the money was right. The 30% are the good couples I see based on love from time to time.
3. We foreigners are open, funny, great at solutions, can make future plans, have fun in life.
4. We foreigners don't trap Chinese girls life in hell with chinese culture.
5. Last but not least: Hey we're good at sex, not just good, but great, we the foreigners are the most romantic guys in the World! 70% of Chinese guys will never get to have fun with the girl next door, So they don't have any idea what to do, thats why they go cold.
Do real foreigners use the word "foreigner"? I doubt it.
happywanderer:
Me too. Hear it enough and your speech pattern changes without really thinking about it.
hiddenjelly:
I often use the word, I guess it depends on how long you've been here.
I am happily married, but if there is a nice looking, gorgeous blonde white girl out there in China......... well have I got a deal for you...... PM me and I will introduce you to the nicest China guy you could ever meet....my brother-in-law..................hahahahhaahahha ...obviously he don't know I did this........ do you have a house and a car and some cash?
From my experiences, I've come across two types of Chinese guys. Ones who only want me for a status symbol.. and ones who tell me they love me after a first date. Go figure. Oh there's a third kind. The married kind.
All you mentioned were straight girls. You didn't mention about lesbians they could like women for all you know. Don't be so simple! Have an open mind...
99Silva:
Girls can like girls. ... girls can also like boys. You can't be judgemental on just one!
bill8899:
Yes it's true, lesbians could like women. And what was your point?
he he I said ... oh never mind.
hahaaahahaahahah.. well, i wouldnt say much if my bf is loating after chinese ladies.. i'd know its time to move on. and tat he's not much of a catch anyways...
Yes, terribly hard for me (Foreign girl in Shanghai) to find a boyfriend.
I don't date Chinese men (sorry... in 3 years I've never turned my head to a Chinese guy because I found him cute...) so my choice fells on the foreigners.
The issue is that, foreign men in China find their life Paradise in here. They're over venerated by Chinese girls (just because they're not Chinese) and they get to over estimate themselves. In the end, they might get a Chinese girlfriend (or more than one) that stays with him only for 'protection' and, actually, for money.
During my 3 years in Shanghai, I can say that foreign men here make themselves really precious, and it's really hard to date them for at least a few months. I'm not saying 'start a relationship' but at least spend some time together to understand and know each other. They eventually just want to have sex with you (simply because you have a vagina), but after a couple of times, they disappear...
They also tell you 'you're beautiful, funny, clever, sexy, amazing etc etc etc' but after a while they choose the "EASY WAY" to live, that is dating a Chinese girl.
dom87:
eh sorry i have a chinese gf but chinese are by no mean the easier choice...
many foreigners here just wanna have fun, thats why they are in china. If you want a foreign bf you are in the wrong country
diverdude1:
wtf is a 'vagina' ?? Is that some sort of new-fangled slang word for 'mouth' ??
happywanderer:
It must mean money, people always want you if you have money .
DrMonkey:
Hello, stereotypes :p Here's some reading to give you some new insights :)
http://www.speakingofchina.com
ironman510:
I'm an American and I don't care to date American, U.K girls, so we're even, I could go into details but that would hurt your feelings alot.
Does the term Loosy Goosy mean anything to you? All I can say it's tight in China, not too loose..I’m a foreign woman and I don’t have a problem meeting men in China. Granted Chinese men don’t approach me..but foreign men do. There are so many foreign men with Chinese women, and it stands out, so we assume that they all want to be with Chinese women; But I’ve met a good amount of men that aren’t even attracted to them. Probably the most frustrating thing is finding a good man that’s interested in a monogamous relationship (but I guess that’s everywhere).
On that topic, I recommend this blog, which does good to address some old stereotypes
http://www.speakingofchina.com
Not that I am looking for a bf, but I think my dredlocks hair kind of scare off the Chinese men more so than my dark skin. They kind of just stare at me with open mouth.
icnif77:
I find it very funny, when I must ask - show to somebody to close his mouth.
Re icnif77 about the closing the mouth bit,
personally, I find it even funnier when I am compelled to ask them if they left their little brother at home.
icnif77:
The biggest problem I see, Chinese don't understand my 'ideas' in English. However, I am big on 'show&tell'.
90% of the foreign girls I see here are fat..
ironman510:
I have lots of perfection, you should see my perfect attendance awards.
Some foreign girls in China are the cause of their own problems. Available, willing and suitable foreign guys in China are in short supply, yet they shut the doors to some categories of foreign guys based on nationality, race and other flimsy reasons.