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anonymous
Q: How to save a relationship with a chinese girl?^^
When something is going on with your chinese girlfriend and you don't have the idea because you are a foreigner to her. For me there is a must to save the relationship especially when you value that person.
11 years 37 weeks ago in Relationships - China
Become her Slave..if she ask you to come at certain place at midnight..go there..let her follow you like mobile phone network..Dont get angry even she call you repeatedly in working hour or in meeting..also reply her on Messenger even you are doing some official work or sending some important mails..
Just do all these simple things..you will save your relationship..
Since you don't mention a problem, I'll guess, Chinese women can be difficult, if you can not get along, then break it off, You have an attachment to her, but there is no reason to be unhappy. AND don't be her slave.That old saying about fish in the sea,, well there's alot more fish in China.
mArtiAn:
Yeh, but for the love of cod, he ain't just gonna break up with her for the halibut.
TedDBayer:
But watch out for Aholehole,Alewife,Blowfish,Chub,Clingfish,Cuthroat trout,Devil ray, and especially Bonefish.
try having a conversation with her. women are people to.
(answer of the day!
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Victoria1987:
Agree with crimo.I like following and calling my ex very often before,cas I like him very much. it is annnoying.Now won't do it any more.Not good,try to grow up a little bit.talk to her to let her kown your throughts,don't need to be slaver all the time.I think most chinese girls will understand,they just need time.
Find out what the 'something going on is'....thats the only way you can be certain to resolve this one way or the other. Good luck
Blind obedience.
Ha, I got in first this time, GuilinRaf!
GuilinRaf:
Lol!
Yes, you came in second (Voltasingh beat us both)!.
Ok, guess I will have to give a REAL answer:
The first thing you need to do is find out what the problem is. She refuses to talk to you about it, then explain to her how you feel and that you truly want to keep the relationship alive and that the only way you (both ) can do so is by having and honest and respectful conversation.
Once you know what the problem is (cultural things, or a particular incident that you yourself may not even remember clearly) then you can get a better plan on how to proceed. All relationships require compromise. there are some things that will go against your culture and hers, but you have to choose which ones you are willing to change, drop or adopt. There are some things that we can adapt to, and there are others that we simply cannot.
However, if she still refuses to speak to you, if she simply does n ot want to tell you what is bothering her, then you may need to re-evaluate whether or not to continue the relationship. Imagine someone being angry at you and you d o not have the slightest idea of WHY. It can be very frustrating.
Best of luck and I hope it all works out!
you don't have to do anything...just make her happy and feel good about herself. ( I am talking about "normal" chinese girls, not gold diggers!)
First,You have to know her better,and figure out what's she likes and dislikes?what she expects from her man? something like that, Be nice ,honest and respectful,Don't promise her anything ONLY IF you can keep it.
you know,every girl is different,even Chinese girls,So,You need to figure out on your own by spending time with her.
Myself ,a Chinese woman who's open minded,so,I will just tell my husband (westerner),what I like and dislike,what you do can make me angry or happy something like that,The way we deal with each other is not in a Chinese way,it's pretty much the same with you guys. But for something,I still have my Chinese mind.It takes me a lot of time to trust a person.much longer than you guys.
Good luck.
