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Sign up with Google Sign up with FacebookQ: I like a guy from Argentina???
Recently I met a guy from Argentina .He is very charming,I like him,I asked number from him.Then he sent me messages to ask me to tell which time I would be available to hang out with him,then I told him after 6:30pm,he repried like alright:).Then this guy never send me messages again,so do I.I have cried for 1 week already.What's wrong with him?I am hurting right now.What should I do?I am Chinese girl working in Shanghai,he is teaching English in SH ,he is 26.
11 years 24 weeks ago in Relationships - China
Hardly a girl out there hasn't been in the same situation.
Here's what you do;
1. Stop crying.
2. Move on.
3. Find someone awesome.
4. Wonder why you were upset in the first place.
Victoria1987:
I tried,but very hard.I went to work everyday with heart feel pain
MissA:
Well, there's option two - get steaming drunk and verbally trash him to everybody you know.
Option two isn't very classy though.
Just accept you'll feel bad for a while, and also realise that eventually you will feel better.
nevermind:
As a formerly single man, on behalf of the younger members of my gender I highly suggest the second option...if it's what I think it is.
MissA:
I actually think that would count as option three, nevermind! And, who knows, it might help...
Victoria1987:
I met this guy one month ago and we didn't get each other's contact information.One month latter,we met it again by occasionally,such a concident.then lost him again...I throught he was a gift...
MissA:
Good men are gifts.
Charming yet unreliable men are just there to teach you how to appreciate the good ones later
Unless his name's Messi (in which case he wouldn't be teaching English in SH), put it behind you and find another Mr Perfect.
But, that's the problem Kaiwen - too many girls are looking for Mr Perfect... and see him in every new guy they meet!
Victoria met a guy, and within a week or so, she's already given him her heart!!! Why? She knows virtually nothing about him (we KNOW she doesn't know much about him, because she's now realised he doesn't reply to her messages... something which, if she'd waited a bit longer to get to know him, she'd realise is part of his personality!).
What MissA said (naturally! Hi again:) ) - move on!
But, more importantly - LEARN THE LESSON!!!! Don't go giving your heart (get emotionally tied to someone to the point that you're heart broken and crying) to someone you've only just met!
Victoria1987:
Come on,I try to be anonymous,why my name comes up again on this forum?
MissA:
Victoria, you can be anoymous in your question, but when you post comments to answers your name comes up, even if you've ticked anonymous for your question above.
It is perfectly obvious here from your follow on comments that you are the original poster. It doesn't matter, we're (almost) all friends here (and it might even remain that way for another few days...)
Victoria1987:
Anyway,still I am single,I am going to buy flowers for myself from now on to please myself cause I don't have boyfriend.
Dudette, it is NOT the end of the world by any means. You need to not put so much stock in a man you barely know.
To tell you the truth, he probably hasn't even remembered this at all.
Stop crying, move on.
Victoria1987:
I kown,tks,guys.But it is really hard to control my feeling to someone and tried not being hurted.Cause I am human being anyway.
nevermind:
I know ya are, sweetie. But you've GOT to toughen up or else your life will be a constant hell.
if he called you, then call him back. Just do not be pushy. Say hello, what are you doing. Say little things. Get to know him. There are lots of men, just keep looking. Look for men from Canada. They are easy to catch. Offer him beer and pizza.
That's how I got caught.
TedDBayer:
Also it helps if you hang out with not so pretty girls, then you look much better, not that you don't look good. You will look better than the others.
First of all, never make public the fact that you were crying for him, whether for a minute or for a week. Then you need to learn to lose, so you can grow up emotionally and become a strong person. Maybe you are one of the girls who believe there is little chance for them to get a boyfriend in their life. I hope you are not that kind, otherwise you will live any love stories always on the verge of despair. It is beautiful to fall in love and suffer this intense, but not on yourself or alone... it has to be shared. If you have no chance to meet that guy, forget him.
Anyway, understand life it means learning to receive good and bad the same way: thankful and humble.
26-year-old, male, foreigner.... oh dear, don't do that to yourself!!! AND in Shanghai!!!
Really, that's so NOT the type of guy you want to be falling for (especially after just meeting him twice and a couple of sms's). He's young, dumb, and full of.... lots of other Chinese girls who will more than just give him the time of day.
About the LAST thing he wants is a girl who's going to get all emotional over him. At best, they'll get used (and abused) and then dumped in a few months. I'd actually say, he did you a HUGE favour in not connecting with you. A bit of heartache, will save you a LOT of heartbreak later!
Ask yourself - which is more important: not getting your heart broken over someone you barely know, or falling madly in love with someone (you barely know)? Keep this in mind BEFORE you go giving your heart to someone! Keep it above your mirror, so you read it every time you look in it. Remember it every time you get someone's number. It will save you so much (temporary) pain.. and, hopefully, you'll end up with the one who's worthy of your heart
Please tell me this is a joke... Repried? Sorry, difficult to take some things on here seriously now.
If not a joke:
What are you, 15? You met him once and he texted you and now you're heartbroken for a week? Seriously, toughen the $$^# up, it's a big grown up world out there. Sorry to sound harsh, but If you're getting this upset and sad over a guy that you just met who's not texting you - so much to the point where you're soliciting sympathy from strangers on the internet, you might want to seek advice other than "how do I get a boy to like me."
Jíliú.hé:
i think its a culture thing, she just wanted to know if it was her fault of an Argentina or English teacher thing .
just relax it the internet.
MrTibbles:
"I met a girl at a bar and she gave me her phone number, but when I called it, it was a water delivery service. I have been crying for a week and I am heartbroken HOW CAN I MAKE HER LOVE ME?!?!?!"
Sounds rational, right?
Oh God! This is the same girl who complained about foreign guys being too shy to approach her on the streets.
http://answers.echinacities.com/question/why-men-are-so-shy
Guys are like subway trains, if you miss one the next one comes soon after, unless it is late at night in which case you hop on whatever you get. Don't cry for him unless you think it is too late for you to catch another guy.
Seriously why are you tormenting yourself over a small issue and I'm 150% sure the guy is somewhere having fun with his boyz and drinking beer.You should toughen up coz that's a really small issue.Does it mean, if for example, you sleep with him and he doesn't text or call,will you kill yourself?
Why did you feel the need to tell us he was / is from Argentina? What possible relevance could that have to this story?
P.S. I agree with Wildcat's rather blunt reply, grow up and get over it.
MissA:
Victoria has told us all, on many occasions, how much she wants 'foreigners' - she included the info because it's very important to her!
Victoria, why do you always come here to talk about your love troubles?
I understand that you'd like a foreigner's opinion about this, and I would normally give you a normal answer, if it weren't the nth time you post childish junk like this. How hard is it to wrap your brain around the fact that this isn't the place to do that?
TedDBayer:
We all gripe about our girl friends. I met many Chinese women that were too sensitive.
Mr_spoon:
I haven't met a single one that didn't behave like they do in those cheesy drama TV shows.
You know, those TV shows where [man] betrayed/lied to [woman], so [woman] slaps him and runs away crying. And [man] just stands there, eyes wide open, regretting his poor decision. Then it eventually goes to [man] in a bar drinking his problems away, and [friend] manages to give advice to make it right.
ElenaDob:
She can't talk about it to her parents because "this is China"; she cannot share it with her friends because they'll make fun of her; there's no one she can talk to. The odds are this forum is the only place where she can ask for advice without being disciplined & made fun of.
sadly this is common in china (not the norm but common) . this is because chinese child spend their childhood studying and competing with their classmates. they do not deelop any social skills. And for children who grow up in a broken home , it is 10X worse. they have no clue as to how a relationship works, they can't control their feelings. and then on top of that , chinese conservative culture adds to the problem. they have no outlet to talk to someone or get help (counseling).
my advice to you , is to find someone older, experienced , open minded and genuine so you can talk things over with them. sadly this is difficult to find in china. they should also be trust worthy, they should repeat what you tell them in confidence. especially difficult to find in china.