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Sign up with Google Sign up with FacebookQ: If I come to China, would I be stared at for being a lesbian?
I don't live in China, but one of my best friends lives in Beijing. I want to come with my girlfriend to visit him, but I'm just afraid of people's reactions in the streets. I've never been to China before, so I'm already anticipating loads of people...
But...I'm a lesbian. I don't know how homosexuality is tolerated over there, but I'm an expressive girl, and I want to be able to hug and kiss my girlfriend in the street without being gaped at by hordes of strangers...
It's pretty much going to be a deciding factor in whether or not I go. I want to visit my friend, but I don't want to spend my vacation being ogled at for being gay.
13 years 7 weeks ago in Relationships - China
Is your girlfriend a Westerner, Omnon? If she is, then people are bound to stare at her anyway, who means also you, indirectly. But don't refrain yourself just because of small details, live free and do what you wanna do, girl!
Well, if u girls kiss on the street surely everyone will staring at you, and in fact even it‘s like a normal couple, a man and a woman, if they kiss in public will also get all that staring. Otherwise will be ok, holding hands, flirt with each other.
Don't worry about it, why do u care if people will stare at u? It's none of their business.
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just do it if you want kiss you GF in china. why you care about. it it a really hard, but if you always think about this way. it will never happened
Go your own way, let others talk
If you hold hands on the street it will just look normal in China. Girls do it all the time.
If you are frenching your gf on the subway train... well that's a different story...
Here's a novel idea: Keep it in your pants and then there is nothing to worry about. This isn't a matter of rights or freedom of expression, but one of class. That goes for anyone, straight, lesbian, gay, whatever.
I don't care if it's your boyfriend, girlfriend, Thai lady-boy, whatever you are into. Amazingly, some people don't want to watch two people dry hump when they're going out for groceries or having dinner. That's why we have internet access.
I hope you realize how ridiculous your question is... "I could go and see a different country and have a unique experience, but I'm not sure if I should do it if I can't muff dive my girlfriend in Tiananmen Square."
Look, if you hold hands, hug, and hang on each other a bit, it's no problem. This behavior is extremely common between friends of both sexes in China, and no one cares. Kiss on the cheek, no one will bat an eyelash. Sticking your tongue down her throat and full on making out will get you stared at and a video put on Youku.
But on an even more serious note, keep in mind that it is a different culture, so showing some reservation while in public is a good idea. Everyone knows sex happens in China (there's only like a billion Chinese that came from somewhere) but it's not as "in your face" as it is in the West. You need to take that into account. Most people don't talk about it, let alone show off in public here (even PDAs with straight people), so just accept that as a condition of the trip.
I really don't see this as a big deal unless showing off to strangers that you are a lesbian is a driving force in your life.
Excuse my answer, I live in Canada and homosexuality is accepted here. I do have gay friends. But I would stare at you for 1: being pretty, I'm a man who enjoys girl watching, 2: really stare if you were making out, then again see reason #1.
Homosexuality is natural,but not neccessarily accepted or understood, even here. I'd be yourself but not overly affectionate in public. There are some people that won't care and some that think it strange, some that think it kinky.
So if you are worried about what others think or will react to , why would you give them any reason.?
I'm straight and very affectionate ( not the word I would normally use) but I won't make overt public displays. Do what I intend to do, put the sign on the door and use room service.
Finally why do all the women have such great looking pics? Are they all fakes?
Omnon, bottom line is your safety. Act and dress conservatively.
Dear God you guys take things to the extreme...
no, I wouldn't dry hump my girlfriend or stick my tongue down her throat...I don't do that back home, and I certainly wouldn't do it over there.
But I do often like to hug my girlfriend in the street and kiss her.
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Homosexuality is actually more accepted here than people give credit for. You can hug and kiss your girlfriend in public as long as the kissing is lined on a quick peck on the lips or cheeks.
I for one will stare anyone down to the ground if I see them making out in public, no matter what reference they have because I do not think it's appropriate.
As Diaphane just said, it's quite common here for women to hold hands in public, not just lesbians, but also just female friends, so you'll be inconspicuous in the crowd!
I can't believe I am gonna respond to this but here goes...........You see lesbians everywhere? What skill do you possess my lord, where lesbians are obvious at your glance? You truly are a visionary, please tell us your secret. What land do you reside in.... Lesbia?
GuilinRaf:
Usually when you see two ladies engaged in a lip-lock, it can be a clue as to their orientation.:-P
crimochina:
actually not true because as many chinese believe and have told me, there is no homosexuality in china. haha and i should know this my best friend here is a lesbian.
Have you been to Shanghai? That statement is almost true. Lesbians everywhere. How can I tell? I'm sitting in the Hershey's coffee shop and they are kissing and groping on the sofa across from me. Not uncommon behaviour in Shanghai. I don't know about Beijing. I don't live in Shanghai, I just go there every few months to refill my chocolate stash and I've seen enough of them.
Sure, it's always a pleasant sight to see lesbians kissing. But just like anywhere else, you don't have to be extravagant about being homosexual.
When it comes to homosexuality, Beijing has been really opening up those past few years, and people are starting to become tolerant, to the point that men eventually hold hands in the street, or lesbians kiss in public in less crowded areas (again, always pleasant). But, because it is part of their culture, going beyond hand holding and hugging in public is generally frowned upon.
If you go visit historical/tourist places such as Tian an men, the Forbidden City, etc etc, show respect towards their culture, and keep it at home. This also applies to straight couples, I find it disrespectful to french it out in a historical and cultural place.
On the other hand, if you go to night clubs and bars, or out any place where children and old people aren't present, knock yourself out! People in bars and clubs are usually more modern, the guys will watch with envy, and the ladies... will, too.