Wow, are you Chinese? Your English is great...........

Of course it could evolve into something really good. You have already identified the problem, this guy will rebuild his trust but only when he feels it is not going to be flung back into his face. If you are truly interested in him you have to be patient, be very honest with him and talk openly about your feelings and what is important to you, and you will be there for him. Just go at the speed he is happy with and if your feelings are reciprocated you will get the relationship you are hoping for, but just be patient.

I have to agree that if you are Chinese your English is terrific.  Just the use of idioms alone shows that you have a great understanding of the language. As far as advice that I could give you. Be confident in yourself and try not to put all of your eggs in one basket. 

a man wants to go super slow??? is he that fragile that a bad experience with a woman can damage him?? 

from what you are telling me he sounds emotionally weak. and he mightg be damaged goods. if his previous experience changed him significantly, then he may  never get over it. and as a result he would always bring her up when you do something he perceives as similar to her . 

my advice go into it with your eyes wide open. if he brings her up too much , then leave him.

I don't think he wants to take it extremely slow. He's just telling you that because he's scared, or he wants you to feel bad for him. Go with him for a bit and find out.

Make sure you both know what you want up-front: there's nothing worse than being in a relationship with someone who wants different things out of it. Imagine you want children, but he doesn't -- or vice versa. That would be quite a drag, and it'll eventually sour.

Now, if you both want the same things in life, you can probably help him overcome this pain, and to trust again. Then he'll probably fall for you. That's how I met my wife... I was an emotionally weak man recovering from the worst relationship ever, and I did pretty much everything crimochina described, but my wife came along and took it all away. Your experience may vary...

Romantic relationships with people who have just been through a traumatic breakdown are extremely difficult, both for him and for you. I speak from experience of a past relationship with a divorced lady that didn't work out for us, and that was many years ago and we were both English, so no racial divide.

One of the biggest hurdles you will have to consider is he is going to need constant proof of your trustworthiness but probably won't be willing to give the same in return as he will see that as you going too far and being too pushy. That means the relationship is open to massive abuse on his side.

How trusting are you? How much do you trust him? How much emotional pain can you take? If you answer those questions honestly, you will know whether you can move forward with this man.

 You should take a chance and let him know how you really feel. What is the worst thing that can happen? It won't happen. I have a feeling that your hot!

I'm no relationship expert.... but personally I've seen way too many times where two people like each other but don't say anything.  Before you know it another girl or man pops into the picture and you're left on the sideline thinking of what could have been.

You only live once, I don't agree with sitting around waiting and hoping things work out. If you like him and want to be in a relationship and you think he likes you....say something.  Worse case sceniro he says no or that he needs some time, at least now you would know and you wouldn't waste time thinking/worrying/wanting something that wont happen....best case scneiro he agrees with you and things go great.

Good luck to you. I saw just tell him you are interested in him...fully knowing understanding your guys situation is better than sitting around second guessing imo.

Talk to him and let him know how you feel, you won't know until you try.  If he's skeptical about having a relationship, just be a good friend and see where it goes.  Life is often too short to live with any regrets, so be forward about your feelings.  Be assertive!

Thanks for all of the great advice! You guys are all swell!  I'm actually not Chinese, although I am pretty fluent by now and can get around easily (sometimes I've been known to fool people on the phone that I'm Chinese, teehee).  But I'm actually Dutch with a bit of an American background which is why I know all the idioms and cultural slang.  I'm definitely going to keep going and see how things go, will update you if something happens that's noteworthy!

  I say go for it; in a thousand years time, who will even care?

  Good to have you back, Mo:)