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Sign up with Google Sign up with FacebookQ: What the hell is "Sa Jiao"?
Someone explain this to me...something about girls' attitude here.
12 years 41 weeks ago in Relationships - China
I'm not 100% sure, but I think it has something to do with women in China often pouting, acting capricious, whining, etc...as an act to get more attention from their husbands/boyfriends. They purposely act 'high-maintenance' so their strong man can take care of them. It's a little like role-playing here, really . Apparently it's the epitome of female cuteness in China.
I'm guessing if so many women do it, it's because the guys here love it!
Yeah, guys love it.
Even my brother said to me, that I have to learn it.
But I am more like the male part in the relationship, so never learned.
And I think if u r not in the relationship and u see some girls do that, will feel sick.
edit and moved was # 3
wenna, you don't know this,, i thought you kinda cute, now think maybe shemale ( use strap on?) and your brother says this to you?? is he the guy that carries the purse?
Sa jiao means act like little girl for love,,, my Chiese GF does it for me,,Merica girls do sumtin like this,,
i call it baby cutzy talk,,, same thing
Yeah, my girlfriends think I am more man than most of their bfs. And I have a lot guy friends, they think I am one of them.
Find a man who is stronger than me(mentally), is hard.
Haha you're silly Wenna, and you're wrong! You sound like my Chinese girlfriend before she drinks her daily bottle of red wine. But my Chinese girlfriend doesn't have guy friends, because she doesn't have the time to go out. Every morning before going to work I give her a daily quest that involves making sure everything at home is perfect for when i come back from work and she greets me with a cafe latte with a hint of cinnamon and cocoa. Add to it the cooking, laundry cleaning and taking care of all my dancing outfits and costumes, she doesn't have moar time to go out a lot!
Maybe you could try and gulp a glass of wine, it can halp you realize your mistake!
What's ur problem PoutineDuFion? Or is that true that only I have problems? Maybe I need to change another environment.
In every answers u gave, there is the bottle of red wine and ur Chinese gf, I really want to know her number……
I drink red wine often but never once a bottle, that's not the way to drink red wine, not only u 'Merican can afford it.
Sounds ur gf is a stay home gf, I bit u r rich.
If any man wants to keep me home, he must pay more than my boss pays me, and I don't think many can afford that.
And u r really funny, live in ur own world. How lovely ur life is~
Sorry Kolbol, I said something has nothing to do with ur question.
Sao Jiao is in Chinese, but I guess, any girls in love will do this to the bfs. And if u r in the relationship u will enjoy this.
Maybe you never experienced moar than just petty love and never a real relationship, Wenna. I offer her red wine because she likes it, a bit like yourself. She used to drink only a glass, but as time passed she developed a resistance to alcohol. You drink wine so you can understand your mistake and learn from it. Why argue and make Milord sad when it's obviously your fault? Don't be silly Wenna, all it takes is moar wine! It will make your life moar easy after it!
wenna , i will sa jiao for you if you want to be the man,, i am more mental (strong) than you
Don‘t make me feel sick please, I will throw up if I ever see any man Sao Jiao. Girls already give me a hard time!
And PoutineDuFion u have no idea how much alcohol I can take, I am from Inner Mongolia.
I was Canadain Drinking Champion 4 years running,, am sorry to miss Beijing beer festival. missing all those drinking competitions,, i would be celebrated as I deserve to be in China.
and weena or is it weiner? you need a sense of humur girl, relax you think everything in writting is serious,, read humour ,sarcassm etc,,, I had to explain sarcasm to my GF,, spoken word often mean opposite,,, you still kinda cute, do you have strap on?
As said earlier, sa jiao is just acting childish in order to get attention.
Men in China have this twisted preference for weak/dependent girls. Makes them feel real strong. If only they could see themselves carrying their gf's bag everywhere.
But hey, preferences are preferences...I just wonder how many of the foreign guys who have Chinese girlfriends deal with that...
She would hit the curb long before the title "girlfriend" even came into consideration... It's sick and pathetic... I witnessed a childish pouting display in the metro about a year ago, I leaned forward and just said "slap the bitch already" he laughed she looked shocked, I smiled... She stopped acting like a retard on the metro... I enjoyed the next 4 stops. (FYI I do not advocate the use of violence, I knew it wouldn't happened and mentioned that in jest!)- My disclaimer.
撒嬌, 撒娇, sājiāo, to act like a spoiled child / to throw a tantrum / to act coquettishly
don't they act cute, and pretty,?? act like spoiled lil sh* ,,never get love that way
Girls in China start doing this when they hit 20 so they can appear younger and therefore attractive to Chinese men, because in China a woman who is not married and who has not popped out a kid by the age of 22 is pretty a much useless old hag that no Chinese man wants. The older a woman gets, and if she's still single, the more high pitched and idiotic the baby-babble becomes.
This stops IMMEDIATELY upon marriage and then the woman wears nothing but plaid pants with flower print shirts. Unfortunately, all the years of talking like an idiot leaves the vocal chords stretched and sore, so all married Chinese women sort of sound like they were 30 pack a day smokers by the time they hit 40.
This phenomenon has also brought about the 35 year old women with Hello Kitty hand bags who dress like they are in the 4th grade hoping to attract that fat, bald, 50 year old sketchy Chinese dude in the stained wife beater hiked up over his belly and boxer shorts that just got out of a BMW.
@ ady, we deal with it by spanking them, its what we do for everything, good fun.
pass me over some more 35 year olds, maybe top it up with some younger stuff.
lol...I love Njord story from the Metro, hilarious!
The frieken 'sa jiao' is--i think--another format of male-superiority that is still very thick in asian culture. Back home--another Asian country--many women tend to do or not do something because either they want to satisfied 'man's ego' of being more powerful, protective, and soon.. or simply because the woman just spoiled and hungry for attention. But, I don't usually see like what women do here with their 'sa jiao'..which is to me sometimes feel annoying.
Ady, just laughing here to see your comment about handbag I'm not sure if this is 'gender-biased', but I won't ask my hubby to carry my handbag, it just turns me off to see a man carries gf/wife's handbag well, of course I'm not talking about some exceptions like accident, being sick, or else.. Being nice and caring to your gf/wife is essential in relationship, but carrying gf/wife's bag for no significant reason is just a way too much. I don't know why it's like seeing 2 words: over-spoiled & control-freak. Anyways, people can surely do what they like or prefer..
It hasn't been 48 hours and Baylee-Ann already learned about Sa Jiao! She said it was funny, because women here have small breasts, so they look like little kids. Baylee-Ann - who's like a sister to me - isn't good with geography and thought it was japan. She said it was probably because Chinese men are turned on by little girls both physically and mentally.
For fun, she started acting like that when we went to see the Olympic park and the pool. It was really annoying so we started to fight because I wanted her to stop. She punched me in the groin and I had to falcon punch her very hard so she understands I am right. We had a good fun!
When we came back home, Baylee-Ann said it was unfair because I am stronger than her, so of course she would lose - she never won a fight against me. Fine by me, I asked my Chinese girlfriend, who's like my representative in China, to pick up the fight.
My Chinese girlfriend is very shy, and wasn't sure she would be able to prove me I am right. I had to serve her three gin tonic (with very few tonic) for her to agree. Of course I don't want her to suffer serious injuries, so I went to the kitchen to get some vegetable oil and rubbed it on her body. I also made her wear my Happy chicken costume to further reduce the risk of injury. It didn't go well, because Baylee-Ann - she's used to wrestling in 'Merica - stunlocked her in less than 10 sec after a series of jabs and a well placed uppercut.
I reprimanded my Chinese girlfriend, because Baylee-Ann started to act all Sa Jiao since then. It was terrible during dinner! When we went to sleep, it was even moar annoying, she was all cuddly cuddly while my Chinese girlfriend fell asleep quite quickly because of the bottle of red wine she drank to make up for her loss.
Later today, we're going to visit the Great Beijing Wall and when she least expect it, I'll falcon punch Baylee-Ann again so she understands I'm still the King!
Falcon Punch, the ubiquitous Chicken suit, gin & tonics, moar bottles of red wine, the long-suffering Chinese gf, Baylee-Ann punching you in the groin, and the 'Great Wall' (more like the 'alright wall'!)... this story has it all.
Poutine, you have surpassed yourself. If I was a dwarf, I would come and rub butter into your feet. And then I'd talc them so they're sooooper-dry, and drive you in a golf cart to a barbeque on my friend's rooftop terrace. His name is Patrick and he's an American Born Chinese, and a DJ, so they call him ABCDJ - cool huh!
Anyway. Sa Jiao is a genetic disease that many Chinese girls and women suffer from. It affects the brain and causes them to act in an unreasonable and immature manner, putting unnecessary pressure on the man in the relationship.
In other news, I met wenna7 in a club in Shanghai about a month ago. She was drunk on gin and tonics, so I brought her back to my place to do some horizontal jogging with, and I can confirm she DOES have a strap-on! Which was a bit of a shock, but I nobbed her anyway.
Victory!!
no fair Ludovico..
I saw wenna first,, that strap on was meant for me,,so i can have a moar memorable time,,coulda calle me ,had a 3 way
Next time Ted.
In response to the original question, this article sums up 'Sa Jiao' perfectly. There is no more I can say on the matter, so I will leave it at this:
double thanks Ludivico,,,,next time call me,,,
so I miss understood Sa Jiao ,... I wuz wrong,,pass the ceremonial wine,,, i will atone for my mistakes,,,,
so Sa Jiao can be to act like a lil' b**** ,,,,,, yr article seems to imply that I wood have to prove my love,,,, i think a good spankin is still a good idea,,, sort of mixin the two cultures,,, I think even wenna wood appreciate a good spankin in the tradition of the western man,,,, and when wood the applying of the chocolate sauce be acceptable ,,,,, anytime?
man you were doing the old in and out with wenna7 here in CHINA? if I had the opportunity I can attest to the fact that it would be quite brutal to say the least...