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Sign up with Google Sign up with FacebookQ: What is th most annoying thing your chinese girlfriend ( wife ) or boyfriend ( husband ) does.
For me it's when i ask my girlfriend something and she give me a grunt rather then a yes or no.
11 years 34 weeks ago in Relationships - China
Often I ask her to do something, it's always 'I ask my friend' and it never gets done.
Well there's the Chinese way of making or changing plans at the last minute.
But when it's within the intimate circle of your girlfriend it can get alot more frustrating.
Scandinavian:
what, 'change plans'... but that implies planning takes place, you're crazy
诸葛亮:
Goodness gracious... don't I love last-minute plans. I agree with Scandiversam... nothing actually seems to get planned.
Laugh when i speak Chinese. Chinese always laugh at foreigners for everything. I dont know if its nervousness or what.... Once some older foreigners came over for our friends wedding and asked my girl what her chinese written tatoo meant.. and she just started giggling and laughing, having no idea so was being sooo damn rude. Im like woman that old lady is gonna beat your ass. But still she does it. No matter what i say,( my chinese isnt great, but its workable) she starts giggling like an idiot... Makes me crazy
maggiegirly:
Actually,I do that sometimes too when My Husband speaks Chinese with me in a funny way,his accent is damn cute,Can not help to laugh. I only laugh at him in private,never did in public.I did not mean to laugh at him ,the way he speaks just so cute.that's it.
Believe it or not,actually,Chinese people laugh when you guys speak Chinese because of your lovely accent. Just different with ours and good to hear.
It's the same like most of Chinese people have a Chinese accent when we speak English. my husband wants me to keep my Chinese accent Cause he found it's cute. but to be honest,I don't really want to. So,I have been trying to get rid of my Chinese accent for years,it's almost gone now.
changing plans last minute and not saying anything until i ask,
eating chicken feet which i cant stand watching,
and becoming one of the crazy impatient people once she arrives at the metro station for example wait for nobody, dont watch where your walking and suddenly stop once she gets of the escalators and this dont just aply to a gfs i tell my friends this but they soon forget within a matter of minutes
thedude:
If you think chicken feet are bad try watching her eat a goose head...all of it.
I can handle chicken feet now...
stan118:
the thing with the chicken feet is people will it them just about anywhere and anytime,
When I ask her a question she clearly does not want to answer she will ignore me.
When I press her and ask why she says "NO WHY". As our friend philbravery always says...this is why I drink.
Waiting until I'm 6 or 7 words into my sentence and then interrupting me with her own much more important thoughts which may or may not be related to the current conversation.
No problems with my wife at all but the mother-in-law lives with us and when she eats it sounds like a hundred pumps trying to drain the swamp!
It REALLY irritates the bejeesus outta me, but it is the Chinese way (even if my wife doesn't do it) so I just grit my teeth and try (unsuccessfully) to ignore it. Trouble is I'm wearing my molars out!
So relieving to read all of your posts...I like the goose heads ones the best! Hahaha...anyway, my husband would never ever, for any reason, admit that he is wrong and say sorry. We had a talk the other night about this and he even told me he knows exactly what I mean and added: "I try, but it's very hard to change!".
So now I "use" my son as an example: every time he does something wrong, we go together to apologize to daddy...Hopefully he'll learn how that is done and that no face is lost in the process!
My wife doesn't really annoy me, it's like they say, 'What do you say to a woman with two black eyes?' Absolutely nothing, she's already been told twice. Well two black eyes, a broken arm, bruised ribs and a shattered jaw-bone make for a very accommodating spouse. Yup, I do think i've gotten her broken now, she's as good as gold.
For one, there's the "sa jiao" treatment. I cannot think of anything more childish or annoying. Acting like a spoilt little child who can't get some sweeties! I hear Chinese men find it stimulating. That, I'm afraid, just shows a mentality problem because different culture or not, how can anyone put up with this kind of behaviour?
Also the irritating habit of spitting the sunflower seed kernels all over my apartment floor despite me placing a bin strategically at the side of where she sits. Then leaving the mess for me to clean up afterwards. Then laughing because I get so annoyed about such "a trivial little matter".
Snatching is the next on the list. I cannot abide anybody snatching things from my hand. I guess that's not a girlfriend thing but a wider symptom of the lack of etiquette that applies in many situations here.
There are probably many more but I will throw the towel in at this point.
We can be in the middle of a conversation, but the moment someone says something to her in Chinese, our conversation is immediately over as the Chinese conversation will always take priority.
And her inability to complete sentences. "I went to the my office and spoke to my boss today. He said...."
Me: "He said...?"
Her: "Huh?"
Wow, from what I have read; incomplete sentences, snatching of things from your very own hand that they expect you to lovingly hold them with, spitting indoors...you guys must be very patient and I guess the love you share with your respective women is a lot (to overshadow all thisssss)
As a girl, I couldn't live with any of it.
Xpat.John:
"When a man loves a woman, she can do no wrong..." - Percy Sledge :)
Sidi:
I don't know about farm animals...you said it. Kaiwen spoke about the spitting of sunflower seed kennels in his apartments..so that's where the indoor spitting comes from...
Sidi:
Haha good girl...um, well you guys here are discussing Chinese girlfriends here... I actually am not Chinese.
I think everyone here has pretty much posted the ones I have!
Telling me to limit my alcohol consumption to 1 bottle of wine per week (at the weekend) - this is a running battle.
Lao gong Dont smoke
Lao Gong Dont Drink
Lao Gong Dont look at the pretty Girls
Lao Gong Dont look when crossing the road or we will waist the insurance premiums
since I cant do the first three I might as well do number 4
Scandinavian:
strangely my woman is encouraging me not to jump in front of cars, tragically that is my main hobby
maggiegirly:
I only say,Lao gong don't smoke , otherwise,No kisses. LOL
It's ok to drink sometimes like social drinking and look at beautiful girls,but not touch.and I should be ok to look at handsome guys as well and not touch.
It makes sense that everyone likes beauties including us.
What's more ,I am so confident in my husband.