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Q: Culture Shock or nah?

In America, most men, especially Melanated men, will not approach a woman if she is with a man. Chinese men are the total opposite. So Bae came to China last month and I flew to see him. While we were together, Chinese men were still looking, screaming hello, and asking for pictures as if Bae was invisible. I was sitting in the hotel lobby waiting for Bae to check-in when a Chinese man comes over and asks me to take a picture with him. Bae walks over and the Chinese man jumps up, waving his hands and saying no, trying to tell Bae that he was not trying to hit on me I guess. Later that night, we went to a night club with some of Bae's business partners and again, Bae was invisible. A group of Chinese men who were sitting across from us kept waving for me to come sit next to their friend(a Chinese man). Did they not stop to think for one second that Bae was my boyfriend? Bae immediately began to get extra touchy/feely but they still did not get it.

 

Yesterday, something crazy happened on the subway. I was standing near the doors looking at my phone when I felt a tap on my shoulder. I turned around to see who had tapped me and it was a young Chinese man who was motioning for me to take his seat. I tried to tell him no but he kept insisting. As he was trying to get me to sit, an elderly lady moved to take the seat. Like literally, her butt was like two inches from being completely planted onto the seat. The Chinese man then yelled at her very loudly and aggressively and she quickly moved away from the seat. He then turned back to me and told me to sit down again. After I declined him again, he finally walked back to his seat. He could have let the elderly lady take the seat...I'm still confused.

 

I need help understanding the psyche of Chinese men because Google is not helping. I am very interested now. Can anyone offer any insight.

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Fake News, didn't happen. 

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We are all shocked:

 

https://www.theguardian.com/news/gallery/2017/oct/13/fridays-fantastic-p...

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Bae, bae, bae. Arsehole.

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Get out of your feelings!

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I don't get the point of all of your passive/aggressive racist, self-congratulatulary posts gilded in mock outrage. What you are really trying to say is that you are so hot that Chinese men throw caution to the wind, civilised behavior under the bus and common sense out the window when the see you.

This all sounds completely plausible of course. lol

iWolf:

Maybe they just recognise a trashy hoe when they see one and are pretty confident that such low class trash would be up for it.

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Tami.X:

I am not hot. I am okay. I am not Beyonce...

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As i said, they recognise you for what you are. It doesn't take a genius.

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You were exposed as a poser!!!!!!!!!!! Give it up already! Your story is fucking bogus. 

You and your Bae are black, then men and women would be asking to take photos with you and him. You're full of shit.

You talk about 'approaching a woman ' implying picking up. But chinese don't really have that in their^culture so you can't compare! You said the Chinese guy started saying no no to tell your bae he wasn't hitting on her. But that wouldn't even have entered his mind! 

 

You're fucking bogus!!! 

Englteachted:

I'm a fat ugly guy, I've had guys offer their seat to me, it's about face

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Haaa, I've always thought you are skinny guy with big  tits .... 

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Tami.X:

I am as real as they come and this is a true story. I am so sorry that you cannot relate to it buttercup.

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Englteachted:

The devil is in the details, only men were asking to take photos with you? No one asked your Bea for his photo?

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